When She’s Twice His Age...


Happy Monday, folks! It has been a quiet weekend with the entire Sunday spent exploring some nice places at Putrajaya, with a friend. Somehow the topic of dating a younger man was broached – well, I think the conversation started with Arjun Kapoor and Malaikka Arora, who have been dating for sometime before their relationship became public. You see, their age difference is 12 years. The media and social media went into frenzy when their relationship was announced, not to mention reaction of Jahnvi Kapoor, half-sister of Arjun who openly declared that she hated Malaikka for dating her half-brother.

It was not so much about who the couple are but so much about the age gap. Seriously, does that matter? Me, for one, could not sit still; as soon as I returned to dreary K L, I started `researching’ on the Net – older women and younger men.

There is actually a list of women (famous, obviously) who have married/dated men much younger than them – Heide Klum married a dude 18 years younger, Tina Turner married Erwin Bach - 16 years her junior, lately Priyanka Chopra and Nick Jonas – a mere 9 years difference.

Seriously, does age matter at all? Any pros and cons to worry about?

Pandagossips.com ran an article on this. They gave a list of both and I am just gonna list them here:

1.    Feeling fresh and carefree – it seems dating a younger man would likely make the woman feel way younger and carefree.
2.    Less history – a younger guy would probably have less ex – girlfriends, no or less divorces and highly probable that he may not even have kids, if he has not been married long enough before his divorce.
3.    More physicality – no, not gym workout - it’s the bedroom that heats up. Generally younger dudes have more strength and vitality and trust me, that could set the bedroom, or whichever room, on fire!
4.    Respect – it seems younger guys respect the women they are with and they are greatly impressed by them. I think I agree with that. Scoring with an older woman usually sets a guy a class above his friends, so yeah!
5.    Mirror – it seems the best way to see ourselves is to see him. He would usually be the mirror image of us when we were young, so said the author.
6.    Change in perspective – especially if one has to put up with the judgemental society. Then again, what better way is there to teach the society a lesson, than this?
7.    Feel good factor – yeah, it seems they just make you feel good by being at your side especially if that dude is one handsome hunk to die for!

The above were the pros; now here are the cons:

1.    Different, goals, different principals – well, this is bound to happen. If he was born after Y2K, obviously he is going to see things differently, his life principles, too, may be quite different. But, what the heck, if the woman is already in her 40s, what life principles?
2.    Lack of life experiences – he may not have sufficient experiences to handle life issues then again what is she there for?
3.    Some childishness and clueless-ness – he was a kid when she was 25, so childishness and clueless-ness are bound to happen. Then again, isn’t that what adds colour to life?
4.  Financial instability – trust me, even at the age of 50 a man could have financial instability, so, personally, I would strike this off the list but am leaving it here for the fun of it.
5.    Babysitting – women are natural mothers, and men are naturally kid like. I would list this under pros and label it as `satisfaction of babysitting’!

Since time immemorial, older women have been in marriage or relationship with younger men. It’s not a taboo but the society could be very punishing and judgemental. However, if one were to live by the expectations of the society, why live at all? Life is very short, so why live by other people’s standards?

He is 25 years younger, all muscles and a handsome hunk... then again Joan Collins and Percy Gibson had a difference of 32 years and the union has lasted till now!

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